There aren’t many better ways of spicing up your love life than discussing each other’s kinks, fantasies and fetishes. The problem is we often forget which things to mention or don’t know how to bring it up. Eve and I made up a fun game where we both individually wrote down a huge list of kinks and fantasies (even ones that didn’t interest us). Then on a date night, we put all of the pieces of paper into a hat and took turns drawing out each fantasy or fetish. The most important rule is that nobody is judgmental or weird about anything. Each partner should feel totally free and comfortable to admit to what they want to.